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Around two years of age, our children live and make us parents go through one of the most difficult stages to bear. Our children's tantrums can last more or less in time and be more or less severe, but in any case they will be an excellent training to test our patience.
We are surprised to see how our children experience such sudden mood swings, show so much rebellion and have such violent reactions. We wonder why our sweet child, the same little angel who a few months ago had the sweetest and happiest character you can imagine, seems to be the subject of some kind of affective disorder. Their repeated tantrums, apart from being embarrassing, especially in public, can leave us without know how to react and control the situation.
I, like many of you, have wondered what causes such exaggerated reactions. When do most of these undesirable situations occur? These tantrums usually have as a prelude any type of annoyance, either because of the prohibition of taking an object that is not appropriate for him, or because he does not indulge in his desires or attitudes, or because he is angry for some reason that is not important to us.
Discussing this matter one day with a friend and child educator, she told me that this stage was a kind of adolescence in which cognitive and maturational changes were taking place in our little one, which produced these chaotic states in his behavior. Our children recognize themselves as unique individuals, begin to define their personality, and, what concerns us now, they measure their strength with us and they learn to set the limits of their next performances.
What to do then? For now, making sense of these behaviors is already an important step. I believe that in those moments we must be firm, each one as best he can, making our little one recognize, perhaps not now but in the future, what they are the limits that we are going to mark to educate them. Our performance may vary depending on the situations, there will be times when it is best to ignore them, others, better to reassure them, others to reprimand or punish them. The main thing is that we ourselves as their educators have clear ideas of how we want to shape our child and, to cope with these annoyances, arm ourselves with patience and wait for them to calm down.
Patro Gabaldon. Editor of our site
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